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Camming 101: Establish Boundaries to Keep the Fantasy Alive

Camming 101: Establish Boundaries to Keep the Fantasy Alive

Hey everyone! I want to share a situation that came up this last week and I want to use this moment to share it with all of you. It may seem like common sense, but it’s important.

I got a complaint from a VIP member that a model was in a long private chat with him, and 55 minutes into the chat someone entered her room and started a conversation with her. The model was in the middle of her show and started laughing and talking back to the other person in her native language. The member was very upset and left the chat. He was so upset that he contacted me.

If you live in an area where you wouldn’t want to have your face attached to your screen name, don’t put your face on your tweets, Instagram photos or snaps. Think of these pages as a billboard promoting your business that the whole world has access to. -Steve Hamilton, Model Manager

I think it goes without saying where the issue is here, but I’ll reiterate it — limiting distractions when you’re camming is very important. Especially if you are in a one-on-one chat like in Cams.com or Streamate. Your member is paying for your time. It’s important to make sure that you’re providing for him. Not only will it prevent a potential chargeback, but it will also prevent a member from leaving your show upset. It’s hard to build a solid clientele if you’re not attentive to them.

Another complaint that this member had was that the model, who he normally visited, was wearing a wedding ring that day in the show. While there are distinct fantasies, like cuckolding that make a wedding ring a part of the fantasy, most members are looking for single girls to interact with. Remember, that is part of “selling the fantasy” that I spoke about in a previous article.

Another thing that came up since the last article was that a model gave one of her best members her personal Facebook page information so that he could say that he was “In a relationship with…” her. Things ended up going sour and the member used the information he found to blackmail her to family and friends. He then made several hundred dummy Facebook accounts, just to make her look bad. He even started a Facebook group where he said her real name and her online name. He bought $500 worth of geo-targetted Facebook ads for the group and before she knew it, she was completely burned online.

This was an extreme example, but it really made this girl’s life very difficult. Using social media is a great tool for promoting yourself, but in the end, be safe. If you live in an area where you wouldn’t want to have your face attached to your screen name, don’t put your face on your tweets, Instagram photos or snaps. Think of these pages as a billboard promoting your business that the whole world has access to. If you’re trying to keep your profession quiet to your friends, try and keep your social interactions sexy, but also remove anything that makes it obvious that it’s you.

This is what I have been dealing with over the last few weeks, so I figured this would be a great reminder. If you have any specific questions, I’m always happy to help, regardless of what site you work on. Send me an email — shamilton@ffn.com — because I’m always looking to share the knowledge I have. Until next time!

Steve Hamilton is the model manager for Cams.com and a monthly columnist for XBIZ Cam World, where he shares informative anecdotes and insider knowledge.

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