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Sex Toy Best Practices for Cam Shows

Sex Toy Best Practices for Cam Shows

You’ve got the looks, you’ve carefully honed your online persona and branding, you’ve created an enticing backdrop with excellent lighting — everything seems to be in order for your cam show, right? Well, not so fast…

You can have all the hot lingerie, allure and charm in the world, but ultimately no adult cam model should be without a collection of sex toys. What can entice fans to take you private, tip you or otherwise interact? Well, your amazing personality, of course. But also: using sex toys in your shows. That’s why, for most cam models, toys are an integral part of the job.

Remember: A good, lucrative streaming session can sometimes last hours, so go slow and treat toy play like a marathon, not a quickie.

Now, let me just say: you are not obligated to use toys if you are uncomfortable doing so, and models should always establish what their limits are and maintain them! Self-respect is sexy. However, if you already enjoy toys in your private life, chances are you’ll have no problem being comfortable using them on cam.

With so many options out there these days, it can be a bit overwhelming when it comes to deciding which ones are worth the investment (especially if you're a new model), so consider the following advice as a starting point to build your "go-to" toy collection, per your taste and preferences.

REMOTE-CONTROLLED TOYS

Spend time browsing any cam platform and you’ll invariably see model profiles with the words “Lovense” or “Lush.” This is no coincidence. Remote toys are definitely a great way to make your show interactive and high-energy. You can enable audience members to tip you and send you those good vibes… literally! Especially in a private show, remote-controlled toys can up the intimacy factor for fans.

Remote toys can also be programmed to work with your livestream on most cam platforms. Check your settings menu and/or follow the manufacturer’s instructions. Without a doubt, Lovense is a leader in the realm of remote toys. In addition to a great selection of sizes and shapes, their toys are known for their widespread compatibility on most camming sites.

I personally love the Lovense Lush. The newest model of that line, Lush 3, is Bluetooth-enabled with anatomically friendly curves that will please you in all the right spots. For anal play, I love the Lovense Hush, which has a comfortable flared base and endless vibration options. Lovense also plans to release fucking machines soon, which will definitely be a game-changer.

If you want an interactive alternative to Lovense, I’d also recommend the Kiiroo brand. Kiiroo has remote-controlled toys for both men and women — which means you can take control of his pleasure too! Kiiroo products are on the higher end in terms of price points, but they definitely are on the cutting edge of sex tech and allow you to have the most intimate remote experience. If you have regulars who crave that personal touch on a remote basis, put a Kiiroo in that wish list.

Feel like splitting the difference? Check out the thrusting toys made by Herquake. These toys cannot be remote-controlled, but your fans will get to see the toy literally thrust inside you, which is sure to make them salivate. I love the original "HerQuake Thrusting Rabbit" for live shows.

‘CLASSIC’ TOYS

Dildos and butt plugs and strap-ons — oh my! These “classic” items are something that should be in every cam room because, well, they can get the job done with no batteries, charger or extra frills necessary. Plus, these sorts of toys are also excellent practical “multi-taskers.” For instance, even if you don’t do lesbian sex or pegging, a basic strap-on or a dildo can be an excellent prop for giving JOI or doing any kind of role-play.

In my personal experience with “classic” toys, it's really worth investing in some different sizes of dildos as well as different colors and physical qualities. Some clients really enjoy seeing you work a dildo that looks like a reasonable anatomical representation of their own body.

These days, butt plugs for women are so cutely designed, so if you do anal, why not show off your fabulous fanny with a pretty jeweled plug, or even one shaped like a flower? You can find numerous options at many price points — and don’t forget the anal beads either!

On another note, as performers we all naturally have different skills and preferences. Some of us are deep-throat or anal queens; others, not so much. This is why it's important to be able to adjust sizes to the situation. Having a wide variety of different sizes also helps to attract bigger tips and more interactions all around as clients appreciate your skills. I also usually try to save my biggest toys for special requests or big shows, as it is much more tiring and taxing to use them all the time.

Again: do not push yourself to the point of injury or discomfort, and don’t worry if you’re not into being a “size queen”; a regular cock and a real orgasm will go much further than you trying to fake it. Lastly, for hygienic reasons, make sure to have separate toys for each hole during a live show — ’nuff said.

TOYS FOR ‘CERTIFIED FREAKS’

Even if conventional dildos put you off, or you just get bored, there are some really incredible fantasy/ novelty toys out there, and it's worth owning at least one — especially if you do cosplay or fetish work. I promise: there are legions of fans who would love to see you take on a hypothetical tentacle, alien probe or demon dick. For some really cool options in this realm, I recommend checking out the creations of Organotoy and Bad Dragon. Obviously, these sorts of toys are not “everyday” items, and clients will often book special shows simply out of curiosity, so don’t be afraid to explore and stand out.

ALL THINGS CONSIDERED, MAKE IT A COLLECTION

If you enjoy toys, and want to make a collection out of it, consider having at least one interactive toy — I actually keep two in case I forget to charge one! Also, three to six basic dildos in different shades and sizes, a strap-on, plugs and beads if you do anal, one or more “novelty” toys a la squirting dildo or alien tentacle, etc.

No matter what you choose, please never force yourself to do something that you aren’t into. For reasons of safety and practicality, you always want to be reasonably comfortable so you can put on a good show rather than having to stop. Remember: a good, lucrative streaming session can sometimes last hours, so go slow and treat toy play like a marathon, not a quickie.

Lastly, don’t be afraid to keep on experimenting and using your imagination to grow your toy collection. Fans always pick up on your innate enthusiasm and creativity, so bring them along on the journey as you discover what works — and “Laissez le bon temps rouler!” Let the good times roll!

Sabien DeMonia, aka Sabrina Night, is a world-famous fetish model, cam girl and adult content creator from Poland. She is also the current brand ambassador for Cherry.tv. Since her arrival in the adult world, Sabien has amassed hundreds of thousands of fans and followers that can’t get enough of her amazing body, extra-large tits and sexy tattoos — not to mention her skillful blowjobs, girl-on-girl action and her numerous “extra-x-rated” fetish videos.

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