A lot of people think that all cam girls and guys start out confident about their bodies and their sexuality, but that isn’t always the case and a lot of the time, cam stars have stated that their cam journey is what helped develop their sexual confidence.
When you begin broadcasting a show, it is up to you to set boundaries and create a safe space that you feel comfortable in. The point where you start to feel comfortable in front of the web cam is when you start having fun, and at that point the rest comes naturally.
Viewers definitely get off on knowing that the performer is having a good time and it’s true that it doesn’t always need to be centered around the female orgasm.
The thought of hundreds of eyes on you can be extremely daunting but it can be powerful as well. There are two ways of looking at it though and the second would be that hundreds of individuals choosing to pay you, compliment you and enjoy your online company can be very empowering. So while this confidence may not happen overnight, the more comfortable you are with having an orgasm online, the more successful a cam career you'll have.
Cam models often attest that the “worry” about what people think eventually becomes non-existent the longer you perform. No matter who you are or what you look like, there’s always going to be people who like you and people who don’t, and that is all a part of being human. Camming helps you realize this and the lovely thing about it is that you can simply press “ban” on any toxic viewers and your room goes back to being what you want it to be – a comfortable space that you can finish in!
So, we have first base covered: an orgasm comes when you are enjoying what you are doing and feel confident about what you are doing … although you can’t force it, there will be days where you will definitely have to fake it. I mean, I used to bartend and there were days I would wake up not wanting to speak to anyone or even get out of bed, but I had to put a smile on and make it work! Camming is similar, because while there may be days when you can’t reach that climactic finale, other days you’ll cross it again and again and again.
One of our popular models on CAM4, Vee_Jeen, said, “I never had a problem cumming for strangers; from my first stream ever, I think I came multiple times. In fact, it's part of what gets me going. There are always days, of course, where orgasms are elusive or I'm on my period and can't get the vibrator all the way in and embellishing the truth happens. “I hate faking it in my personal life but, let's be real; it has happened on occasion,” Vee_Jeen added. “I hate it equally on cam, which is why I might turn to other goals like peeing or ass play. I think overall people want to know you're feeling good while also getting their own rocks off, so how that happens I don't think needs to center around an orgasm every single time.”
Viewers definitely get off on knowing that the performer is having a good time and it’s true that it doesn’t always need to be centered around the female orgasm, not to mention there are many steps that might also help get someone there. Performers can do a variety of activities on cam and if you aren’t in the mood to finish, then maybe you change things up by offering JOI shows and other kinks that are not centered around the female orgasm, or as Vee_Jeen suggested, shift your focus to other “end” goals.
Sometimes though, you may have a real orgasm and this euphoria is an incredible feeling while others are watching you. One of our models, who has chosen to stay anonymous, stated many viewers tip more, when she exaggerates her orgasm. Everyone knows not every orgasm is intense and not every individual screams and shouts every time they finish, but when you are putting on a show, you may be more inclined to do so; not to mention, a more heightened response communicates your orgasm through the screen better.
Exaggerated and fake orgasms are common but so are real orgasms, and having a virtual audience can even help amplify the impact, according to ItsMsEgypt2U. She shared, “I've learned that the climax while broadcasting is a crazy feeling. To know that you're being watched is extremely sexy and exciting for me and my viewers, which makes the climax more intense. With our imaginations running wild, it’s like a true fantasy brought to life.”
This goes back to creating a safe cam space where you can be comfortable and relaxed, so that you can enjoy the experience as much as your viewers are … and perhaps the thought of viewers getting off to you can even help you experience one of your best orgasms yet.
Vicki Gray is a CAM4 account manager, who can be followed @VickiGrayxxx on Twitter and contacted by email at Vicki@CAM4.com.
