This feature article appears in the August 2024 issue of X3 magazine, dedicated to capturing the genuine personalities, passions, and stories of emerging and established stars. X3 is published by XBIZ Media.
Poise is a rare commodity these days. The dictionary defines poise as “graceful and elegant bearing in a person.” What it doesn’t mention is that you can’t learn poise; you either have it or you don’t.
Scarlett Alexis has poise.
We meet Alexis at an old-fashioned diner in the San Fernando Valley, hidden in a nook between freeways. Her universal poise and appeal transcend the venue, however: It’s immediately apparent to anyone who meets Alexis that she could hang as comfortably in a Michelin-starred restaurant as in this classic burger joint, which has not changed since the “Boogie Nights” era.
She’s also a fantastic conversationalist, adept at both sharing and — another rare commodity these days — listening. She speaks well and warmly, and has thought about the world carefully and critically, which gives her thoughts and questions a palpable depth.
“Self-education has always been very important to me,” Alexis says. “I’m a learner. I always have to be learning something to stimulate my mind. That’s an important part of me.”
Alexis entered the adult entertainment scene at 22. She is 25 now. Any institution of higher learning would have been happy to have her, but her upbringing set her on a different path.
“My parents are very religious, and growing up in Arizona, at one point they actually dissuaded me and my two sisters from going to college, because they were scared of the secular world,” she shares. “Later, they became more open to the idea.”
Alexis was homeschooled growing up, but also traveled around with her family, which gave her a different kind of education.
“My parents don’t agree, obviously, with what I do for a living, but we don’t talk about it,” she says. “They’re nice to me, which I appreciate. None of my sisters followed in their religious path. I can’t speak for them, but I’m very much into science and I’m always questioning things, and religion doesn’t really like that. Because God knows everything! You’re not supposed to question. And that part has always bothered me.”
On the other hand, Alexis says, there was a lot of freedom in being homeschooled. She had a social life and took classes in dance, martial arts, acting and — most notably — music, which would become a major focus for her.
Eventually, during a remarkably frank conversation, Alexis told her parents, “You’ve had your spiritual experiences that have led you to believe what you believe, but I haven’t had those experiences. So I just have to be authentic to myself.”
This led her to study a lot of anthropology, different cultures and their legends, and also health. Most recently, Alexis says, she has developed a strong interest in neuroscience and psychology, especially the research aspects of those disciplines, and the applied science of neuromarketing.
“If I ever go to school, I might study that,” she reveals. “I know I’m capable of it. Every human is capable if you apply yourself.”
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