LOS ANGELES — Reigning XBIZ “Cam Model of the Year” and disability advocate GoAskAlex explores sex with an ostomy in a new essay for Arousibility.com.
The performer seeks to shine a spotlight on “her myriad struggles, challenges, triumphs and feats since her 2019 ostomy, which necessitated the removal of her large intestine and the addition of an ileostomy and bag/external ostomy system,” a rep explained.
In the essay, Alex explores the various ways the surgery changed her life.
"I knew from an early age that it was a possibility, but nothing could have prepared me for waking up from surgery with an ileostomy,” she wrote. “I spent a total of one month in the hospital, and it took nearly two months before I could independently walk and care for myself again. This was a massive shift for me, as I had never struggled with mobility before the major surgery that left me with this permanent medical device.”
Like most sex workers, Alex is self-employed and quickly realized that she would have to professionally and financially adapt to her new normal.
“As an adult entertainer, returning to work meant returning to sex; there was no way around it,” she continued. "Not only had I become accustomed to the flexibility and financial comfort of webcam streaming and content creation, but it was only after my surgery that I realized that my medical supplies would cost me upwards of $1,000 per month — yes, for the rest of my life.”
Over time, Alex did become more comfortable onscreen, and with partners, but she has accepted that her journey will never end.
“Ultimately, I have learned that there is no destination, no beginning and end; there is only the continual journey of radical self-acceptance,” she stated. “To anyone who is struggling with their sexuality amidst a disability or chronic illness, I would say this: 'It is a journey of ups-and-downs, and as long as you do your best to be kind to yourself in the process, then you are on the right track.'"
To read the full article, “Adjusting to My Sexual Body with an Ostomy,” visit Arousibility.com.
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