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Managing Expectations for Custom Videos

Managing Expectations for Custom Videos

Custom video requests from fans are a great way to make money, but once they give you their specific ideas, taking on a project like this can be tricky. It’s definitely very different from a fan giving general suggestions about what types of content you should create more of and what types of outfits you should wear.

The fan usually gets first access to the custom content, but sometimes they want exclusive access. For the most part, it’s understood that the creator will sell it on other platforms, but you need to make it clear to the fan.

There are many things that you need to consider when dealing with a custom video and negotiating with a fan.

This all sounds easy in theory, but there are many things that you need to consider when negotiating a custom video.

Give the People What They Want — As Long As They're Serious About It

When it comes to people and what turns them on, there are endless possibilities. Some custom ideas might not even be about what turns them on, but about seeing what you’re willing to do. And then there are the occasional custom trolls who want to get a reaction out of you. Another scenario to be aware of is when fans are super excited to talk with you — but don’t really have the money for a custom.

What You Are Willing and Able to Do

So, how does one negotiate with a fan and create something they envision? Here are some basics I use when negotiating a custom video request.

What are you willing to do? Which activities are off limits varies from one creator to another. For example, I only do solo videos. This doesn’t mean I won’t do non-solo; it just means I won’t produce them. If someone wants a bondage video, I ask them to bring it up with a local producer or someone I’m traveling to. The same goes for B/G videos.

The fan’s script must comply with your platform's rules or TOS, though if you own your own website, you can do a wider variety of things. Each platform has its own rules, but I have found most are similar. If you’re into taboo stuff, you probably already know which sites are best for that content.

Sometimes you might have to direct someone to another platform for certain video ideas. Most platforms don’t want you talking about other platforms on their site, so you need to be careful. Once you decide what you will and won’t do, it makes it easier to negotiate custom requests.

Tracking Your Customs

You’ll need to figure out the best way to keep track of your customs, depending on the site or platform. Some have an effective built-in way of tracking custom video orders, while others do not. There are many ways to organize tracking, however, from Excel spreadsheets to Google calendars, day calendars or even just an old-school notebook. How you stay organized doesn’t matter as long as it works for you.

While we’re on the topic of scheduling, you’ll want to set a deadline that works for both you and the fan. Keep track of where you deliver the custom, what platform you’re talking to them on, the deadline and the price.

What Is the Magic Number to Charge?

How much to charge for customs depends on many factors. Will you need to pay someone to shoot it? Will you need to rent a location? Does it call for other performers, and what would their rates be? Will you need to purchase specific outfits? How long will the video take to make and edit? Are there other costs involved? You want to stay competitive and make a profit, but also keep it realistically priced for the fan. Since I just do solo videos, I have a standard per-minute rate. Some people also charge extra for things like saying the fan’s name, since that means they won’t be able to sell the clip to anyone else later on.

Things to Keep in Mind When Engaging with Fans

There are many things to consider when talking to a fan. A fan might request something the site doesn’t allow, so you may need to refuse certain requests or even decline altogether. When I tell fans that a particular site doesn’t allow a specific thing, they sometimes point out that other sites do. I explain that, while that might be true, I’m not willing to risk it. Most people are easygoing and will suggest alternate content ideas.

Keeping Your Composure

I do my best to stay polite, even if asked for something totally crazy. I don’t want to shame anyone, but I also refuse to do certain things. In those instances, you can explain as much or as little as you like; you don’t owe anyone an explanation beyond saying it’s not something you will do. Some people will say all sorts of things to get under your skin. If you react, they win, so move on. The fact that I’m talking about trolls is already giving them more attention than they deserve.

Getting Paid

Arranging payment is crucial. Some people ask for a deposit or the total amount ahead of time. This depends on your personal preference and what the client is OK with. I don’t have many costs going into the production of my videos, so I don’t need money ahead of time.

Offering customs can be as easy or as complicated as you make it. But always remember, you have complete control. 

Ophelia Kaan is a performer and content creator who can be followed @OpheliaKaan on X.com, booked through ATMLA for studio shoots, contacted at opheliak@protonmail.com and subbed to on OnlyFans.com/opheliakaan10.

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