As I’m getting ready to start my day, I hear a ping on my phone. It’s a text from a new sexting client: “I’ve never told anyone this before, but I love your body. BBWs are such a turn-on!” I’m excited to text him back and indulge in his love for big beautiful women. After all, this isn’t the first time I’ve received this type of message from a guy thinking that he has to hide his love for a woman’s body that is “outside of the norm.”
Surprisingly, I once thought about BBWs in the same way myself, until I realized that guys don’t just like me, they love me the way I am. Being a BBW in this industry has nothing to do with the “You’re so brave” comments and everything to do with loving yourself enough to put yourself out there, no matter your size.
Some of the thousands of fetishes that anyone can tap into include belly play, ‘fat chat,’ arm worship, burping and squashing.
That being said, is this business more challenging for BBW women? Yes. However, there is a place for everyone here and if you dedicate yourself, it can take you to places you never imagined you could go.
See, being a BBW puts you in a niche market by default. Porn lovers are specifically searching for the term “BBW,” and that puts you front and center from the beginning in a unique way. However, who fits into the BBW category? For me, this is anyone larger than the “average” size woman.
Do you have to be larger everywhere? No. According to many magazines, “plus-size” is defined as anyone who wears a size 18 and over or larger than an XL. I call BS on this definition, so I stick with just being bigger than average. If you feel that’s you, welcome to our community.
This reminds me of one of the biggest misconceptions that new models come to me with: “I think I’m a BBW, but I have no tits/ass, so I won’t be popular.” This is so far from the truth and I’ll explain why.
As a BBW creator, there are so many different lanes to explore because there are so many unique things about us. Guys searching for bigger women may also be searching for specific things about a bigger woman’s body. Think of it like dating; some people want different-sized boobs, some want ass and some just want all of you. See where I’m going with this? You can’t please everyone, but you’ll please more than you probably think.
Let’s talk about these fetishes. As a BBW, I have a belly, jiggly thighs, underarms and generally more prominent features. In my career, I have decided to show all of myself and embrace these things. Some do and some do not; there is no right or wrong. The beautiful thing about the adult industry is getting to do what you are comfortable with and making that work for you.
Some of the thousands of fetishes that anyone can tap into include belly play, “fat chat,” arm worship, burping and squashing. I had absolutely no idea about these in the beginning! I found out that some men love to watch me jiggle my belly or bounce it around. They love hearing me talk about being a BBW, especially if I’m burping through the video. And squashing is where people love the feeling of having weight on various parts of their body and seeing how long they can support it. I have even done videos to see how many marshmallows could fit into my belly button.
Societal “norms” have brainwashed us into thinking that the female frame has to be thin, toned and gravity-defying but throw all of these beliefs away and start over. When you begin exploring and thinking outside of the box, regardless of what anyone says or thinks, that’s when the magic happens.
What about other fetishes? You can absolutely do any of them. When making your content, though, keep in mind to always tag yourself as a BBW, even if the content seems like it has nothing to do with that. It does! Why? Because you are doing it. Sometimes our customers couldn’t care less what size we are and only care about the fetish being featured, such as smoking, blow jobs or even nose blowing. Other times, they specifically look for BBWs doing these things. Make sure that you cover all of your bases when you are posting content so that you can hit multiple niches.
Speaking of appealing to the right customers, how exactly do you find your target audience and determine your “core” content? To whom are you catering and what acts are you performing? For me, these were difficult questions in the beginning. I wanted to do everything! But, doing everything was leading to burnout. So I looked to my favorite models and mentors and realized that I don’t have to do everything to succeed. It was time to sit down and have a conversation with myself about what I really love to do and the unique things that I am good at, sexually and in general. It is kind of like throwing spaghetti at a wall and seeing what sticks.
For example, while I was researching different fetishes, I came across the aforementioned nose blowing, and I was like... “Really?!” I had no idea that my onslaught of seasonal allergies could be made into profitable content. I decided to go for it and filmed two clips of me sneezing and blowing my nose until the cows came home, as my eyes watered from the neighbor mowing his lawn for the fourth time this week. I uploaded them, took my allergy medicine and woke up to being the 17th-mostpopular content creator on the platform I used. I was blown away! That quickly became part of my core content, and those nose-blowing lovers keep coming back, asking for custom content or snapping up every new video I post. But wait! What if you aren’t into specific fetishes? Suppose you’re someone who is more “vanilla,” meaning you just like sharing your body and doing ordinary sex acts. This is fine and doesn’t put you at a disadvantage. After you’ve sat down, done your research and realized what it is that you do and do not like, if you come to the conclusion that you only want to make oral content or hardcore content, do that! Just don’t forget your tags.
Once you have found your passion(s), you have to keep your fans coming back. This is where branding comes into play as one of the most essential things in this industry that I’m passionate about. If you are posting content and leaving your success to the search term gods, you will not get very far. Regardless of the kind of content that you make, you need a home base. This can be your own personal website, email, social media or a platform that allows you to cross-promote your brand and content. The important part is that your theme and marketing match up across the board. The biggest downfall I see with new models is not having a solid name or changing their name too often. Find something that you love and stick with it everywhere. My name, for instance, is “Corii Siren” and, even though I rebranded at one point, searching my name now will lead to my socials, all of my platforms, my clips and so on. It is so important to have a place, or multiple places, for your fans to be able to interact with you and contact you. Building rapport with your audience is necessary and being consistent with your core content is key.
You can always branch out, try new strategies, reevaluate your core content and switch up your flow to fit your style, brand and personality as you grow in the industry and as a person. Just be sure to have at least one place on the internet that your fans can call “home” and find you for as long as you choose to grace this industry with your presence.
Corii Siren is an industry veteran of 10 years and a Blisss.company ambassador, who creates BBW content, coaches talent and hosts the “Why Are Men” podcast. She can be followed on Twitter @CoriiSiren and at Blisss.company/CoriiSiren. Email her at toxicsirenbbw@hotmail.com.
