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Spring Clean Your Cam Room … and Your Life

Spring Clean Your Cam Room … and Your Life

Spring is by far my favorite season, first, because everything seems to be alive … and second, because I’m a sadist and I like to see people have allergies (just kidding). No, my favorite part about the season is spring cleaning, that I was often asked to do as a child. It was something of a family tradition in the household, a time to let go of the old, the dusty and the cluttering.

Even though it used to take a day or two, depending on how much time you spent looking at old stuff that you definitely didn’t need, afterwards, you had this feeling of freedom, like your whole life was a blank canvas and you could start again. You felt ready.

For most of our lives, we keep holding onto mistakes that we’ve made just because we spent a lot of time doing them.

I was just thinking about this and then it popped into my mind — why don’t we do spring cleaning in our lives? Out with the old, the problems and the bad habits, in with the new people and the fresh experiences. So many of us feel comfortable in a state of latency, forgetting that we’re the masters of our own destiny, that we have the capacity to change things around us.

Over the course of time, we gather so many things that we either sweep under the carpet or just throw in our closet, so when the mess becomes too great, we’d rather move to a new house than actually start organizing our current living space.

Bad reviews, bad relationships, toxic people, trolls, the feeling of not being enough, etc., all these things need to be put in a box and burned, alongside prejudice, oversensitive people and the “I have serious commitment issues” b.s. that people say nowadays.

I turned to the #GirlsFromStudio20 and the #BoysFromStudio20 to ask about what they’d throw away for spring cleaning.

“As far as I’m concerned, I started spring cleaning a few months ago and I already threw away so many of the things that didn’t make sense in my life. I started with people around me that just didn’t give me anything,” said the beautiful Sophie Lust. “When I say that they didn’t give me anything, I’m actually talking about emotional support, understanding, etc. I realized that I have my own back and that made the ‘cleaning’ so much easier to do. I saw that ever since I started earning more and more, ‘friends’ started coming out of nowhere, people that only used me to fulfill their own goals and at the end … I was left with nothing. So since they bring no value, why should I keep them?“

For most of our lives, we keep holding onto mistakes that we’ve made just because we spent a lot of time doing them. We hold onto things that, at the end of the day, don’t give us any value, just because it’s what we made ourselves get used to.

As for Megan Kroft, she said, “For the longest time, I’ve valued myself based on what people thought of me. It wasn’t until one day that I was really depressed and a person that I didn’t even expect told me, ‘Remember, people that don’t even know you, pay you shit loads of money just to hear your voice and talk to you, without expecting anything in return.’ It hit me so hard. It was like a cold shower that I really needed at that moment. So what I did was get out the ‘vacuum cleaner’ and start cleaning people’s opinions from my life, from the damns that I gave and from needing confirmation. I feel so free and happy now.”

The world of adult entertainment is amazing and we all know this fact very well, otherwise we wouldn’t be in it. It’s a matter of “uncluttering” it with what “civilians” think. I won’t stop talking about this, because the emotional support that performers need is incredibly important. Learning to say, “Funk it!” anytime anyone comes with their own dirt to throw on your porch.

Let’s keep it clean, let’s start cleaning our “houses” and ask everyone to wipe their shoes off of the bad things, judgment and preconceived ideas about this business. It’s your house — remember that!

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