HarrietSugarcookie.com Advises Men on Rules of Social Media Pickup

LONDON — In a new article on HarrietSugarcookie.com, the 2017 XBIZ Webstar of the Year tackles the delicate art of making an online connection.

In, “How to Meet Women on Social Media Without Being Creepy,” Sugarcookie writes that social media sites "can almost be compared to bars and coffee shops. It’s not made for dating, but you can definitely flirt with someone there."  

With Twitter, "you can follow your crushes’ tweets, like them and engage them in conversation… replying to them publicly means everyone can see," she wrote. "That means you should consider not flirting, but simply having a conversation… once you’ve gotten their attention, work on building up a connection. Then you can move things to direct messaging (or ‘slide into their DMs’) and be more flirty there."

For Facebook users, Sugarcookie advises a different approach. 

"Pick girls who you might actually have friends in common with,” she added. “Once you are already friends it’s best to open up a private message… ‘Oh I saw you posted about x; I have an interest in that as well! What did you think of…?’ This way you’re starting a conversation." 

With Instagram, "there’s no rule against liking as many posts by your crush as you want," Sugarcookie explained. "Commenting is also a free-for-all… more leeway on giving compliments. It’s fine to tell a girl she’s beautiful straight away, and that you think her photos are super-hot," noting that of the three social media platforms, she finds Instagram to be the most "shallow,” meaning "the mentality is a little bit more open." 

To read the full article, click here. For more information, visit HarrietSugarcookie.com or follow her on TwitterFacebook or Instagram.

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