Whether you’ve always known sensual domination as “the rookie side of BDSM” or heard about it from a blockbuster film, the truth is sensual domination existed even before it had a name and it’s here to stay.
So what is sensual domination? It’s all about seducing, triggering the senses and exciting the body and mind! In the end, it all comes to those three principles, and yet it’s so much more.
See, there are two types of sexual arousal: the mental and physical. It’s in sensual domination that the two of them collide, creating an erotic and intimate adventure that will open your mind to a new concept of sex. Aimed to delight the five senses: sight, sound, smell, taste and touch, sensual domination honors pleasure and praise over pain and punishment.
In a sensual domination relationship, like in BDSM relationships, there is a dominant and a submissive. But these two can switch between the partners from one hot encounter to another, if they so wish. Oh la la! Before you engage in this kind of relationship, however, open communication is absolutely necessary! You will need to discuss both of your limits, worries, wishes, past experiences and establish the use of a safeword.
A safeword is completely essential. Not only does it give the submissive the freedom to communicate whenever they are approaching or crossing a physical or emotional limit, but it provides the dominant the flexibility to explore the submissive’s kinks or, most importantly: know when to stop. And you both want the other one to really enjoy this, right?
To me, I always felt the traffic light colors were a good standard as a safeword: “Green’’ as a “yes, yes, yes!” and “yellow” as in “I’m approaching a limit,” with “red” as an absolute “no!” Also, if you happen to be the submissive and you are close to an orgasm, moaning the word “no’’ with a safeword pre-established, it won’t be mistaken by the dominant as a real “no” and you can enjoy your moment uninterrupted.
So, putting everything in its rightful place, the dominant’s purpose is to seduce and take control, while the submissive’s purpose is to obey, to please and be pleased. The purposes of both of them are to respect and enjoy!
To enhance a good sensual domination session, you can use a variety of toys to increase pleasure, from ones that vanilla couples already use, such as candles, massage oils and feathers, to toys that are already familiar to BDSM practitioners like blindfolds, handcuffs and ropes … anything that can stimulate your senses really.
And you don’t even have to spend a great amount of money to start experimenting with sensual domination; you can easily use ice cubes to slowly melt them on your partner’s body, use the back of a hairbrush for that occasional (given with love) spank, wear the sexy underwear you already have, do some roleplay, whisper some dirty talk or even turn your partner into tonight’s sweet dessert by covering them with some chocolate or whipped cream? Yummy ... just be creative; the options are limitless!
Sensual Domination vs. BDSM
In most forms of BDSM practices, pain, humiliation and punishment are common. Sensual domination on the other hand rejoices in seduction, pleasure and reward. It’s the alternative universe, where the dominant is kind and tolerant, and the submissive is caring and committed.
Unlike other forms of BDSM, it’s highly unlikely you’ll get hurt when you venture into sensual domination. Pain is not the focus of sensual domination!
But that doesn’t mean things can’t get wild and kinky, as some people believe pleasure and pain are two sides of the same coin. To spice it up on the wild side of sensual domination, you can always wrap your hand around your partner’s throat, offer a sporadic ass spank, erotic scratching, some hair pulling and so on. The only purpose of these extra stimulations is to take the submissive partner to orgasm and never to take the submissive to their limits! Just remember to keep it light and sensual.
Sensual domination and BDSM do have their little similarities; both have a dom and a sub relationship dynamic, both use safewords, both rely on a previous consensual agreement and both have a dominant part that takes control but (everyone knows that, deep down) it’s really the submissive part who is in control. And so, sensual domination goes inside the leather cover book of BDSM, but having its own long velvet chapter.
As it’s a more devoted form of domination and it mingles well with many different fetishes, lots of people around the world have engaged in sensual domination for all sorts of reasons. First, it’s a healthy way for married couples to stimulate their sex lives. It involves commitment, which can be a kinky alternative to build up trust and intimacy in your partner after having bad experiences in the past.
For the people already in the BDSM world, sensual domination can come in as a refreshing breeze if they want a pause from other hardcore forms of domination. And the patience, dedication and affection put into a sensual domination relationship forms a bond between dom and sub that is spiritually unbreakable. Besides, it’s sexy and it’s fun!
Remember that your brain is your most powerful sex organ. Not only does it keep all of your organs working even while you sleep, every day it learns it solves and it heals itself from the inside out. Among many other fantastic deeds, the brain is also responsible for triggering your libido at the sound of a dirty word, a familiar sweet scent, the touch of silk or an aphrodisiac cuisine.
It’s been scientifically proven that sex releases oxytocin into your body with all those beneficial “magic” effects on your system, and with sensual domination, you can intensify that sexual experience to make it more pleasurable … almost tantric … “tickling” all of your brain! So, isn’t it all worth trying it out for the sake of glowing skin and erotic sex?
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