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May 9, 2017
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" Calling this technique fisting is a bit of a misnomer because the hand isn’t usually balled into a fist; proper fisting technique requires the hand to be in more of a duckbill position. "

Does the phrase “anal fisting” make your sphincter clench in terror? Does it seem like an urban legend or an extreme party trick? Most people scoff at the idea of trying it because it sounds extreme; however, anal fisting isn’t the uncomfortable act most assume. It involves slow, gentle massage and can be a profoundly erotic experience. With the right tools and approach, it can also be easy to achieve.

What Is Fisting?

Sometimes referred to as handball, anal fisting is the practice of inserting the hand into the rectum. Calling this technique fisting is a bit of a misnomer because the hand isn’t usually balled into a fist; proper fisting technique requires the hand to be in more of a duckbill position. The fingers should be straight and positioned together with the thumb flat against the palm, a position often referred to as the “silent duck” position. Most people need to work up to accommodating an entire hand, whether it be during a single session or through practice over time.

Anal Training

Since this is an advanced sexual technique, receivers need to be able to accommodate a lot of girth anally. It isn’t something one jumps into on a whim. Three Bumps for Your Rump butt plugs by Master Series are perfect primers and are available in small, medium and large sizes. Those new to anal fisting can work their way up over weeks or months to accommodating a circumference comparable to a hand. Each bump on these plugs are larger than the last, allowing the wearer to take more and more as they go deeper.


Most receivers use an enema before fisting to minimize mess (CleanStream makes high-quality equipment for that). Givers should remove all finger rings, wrist jewelry, and trim their nails. It’s also a good idea to wear latex or nitrile gloves to protect the hands and rectum from bacteria, but if partners are using oil-based lube or oil-based fisting creams, make sure to use only non-latex gloves!

Before getting down to business, make sure to have everything you may need within arm’s reach. This includes fisting-friendly lubricant like Invade Deep Fisting Cream by Master Series, absorbent pads, and wet wipes. The receiver should be in a comfortable position; most beginners like to lie flat on their backs because it encourages relaxation, and sex slings make for great anal fisting support tools. However you choose to position yourself, keep in mind that comfort is essential for successful anal play.


The object of the warm-up phase is to completely relax and arouse the receiver to ensure they are ready to fully open up. Wearing a butt plug before play can help prepare the rectum for receiving a hand and starting with non-penetrative anal and genital stimulation is great for prep play. Once it’s clear the receiver is ready, it’s time for penetration.

Lube like Tom of Finland Fisting Formula Desensitizing Cream can prove useful at this point. It’s an oil-based formula with a very subtle numbing effect that can help relax the anus and make penetration feel easier. It’s important at this stage to proceed very slowly. Think of it as a sensual massage.

Start by inserting one finger. Take time to play; insert it, move it in and out, circle it around, do whatever feels good. When the receiver says they’re ready, insert a second finger. Play with both fingers just like you did with the first. As you massage and penetrate, try separating your two fingers into a V shape. This not only feels pleasant but helps the area stretch.

Going All-In

After the receiver is relaxed and enjoying your fingers inside them, add a third. Massage for a while and then when the time is right, add the fourth finger.

It’s important to keep adding lube as necessary. There is no such thing as too much lube when it comes to anal play. If at any point the receiver feels pain, stop immediately. The rectal walls are very delicate and can tear easily, which is why it’s so important to work more fingers in at a very gradual place. You want to be sure you don’t accidentally do damage.

After you have all four fingers in, it’s time to slide in the thumb so the giver’s hand is in the “silent duck” shape. Keep massaging slowly until you have worked your hand in past the knuckles. Getting the knuckles in is the most challenging part.

Once the giver is in past the knuckles, don’t force the hand in further. Let it be drawn in by the anus. Comfort permitting, the giver should be able to move their fingers around, maybe even ball the hand into a fist, or stay still and let the receiver enjoy that “full” feeling. Some like to stay in just up to the wrist but others go in further — it’s even possible to insert an arm up to the elbow or beyond! That move isn’t for beginners, of course, but with lots of practice can be achieved.

Solo Fisting

Although some people are flexible enough to work their own fist into their own ass, most are not. Luckily, there are a number of fist-shaped insertables that can do the job. Sammy’s Fist Anal Plug by Master Series is the perfect toy for simulated auto-fisting sessions, and for a more intense experience, the Governor Steel Fist Plug offers eight pounds of solid stainless steel perfect for placing on a flat surface to mount easily. Master Series’ Dual Ended Fisting Dildo offers two hand-shaped insertables in one toy for variety or playing with a friend.

Anal fisting isn’t the taboo, impossible sexual technique most make it out to be. It is an intense euphoric experience that fosters intimacy and trust. In order to help shoppers navigate their options, it’s important that you and other staff members are familiar with proper techniques and recommended tools. The more comfortable you are with discussing anal fisting, the better you can serve your customers.


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