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A Great Man Died Last Week

He died at the age of 64. He was a genius.

He had absolutely nothing to do with the adult entertainment industry, and would have blanched at the idea of being mentioned in reference to it, but in fact even here his greatness has been felt.

I know of at least two other people who work full-time in this business who knew Gar well, worked with him over the years and loved him as much if not far more than I. They are grieving deeply this week as well.

I acted with him, was directed by him and studied with him for years, and I can say with absolute certainty that I am a more complete human being for the experience, and am definitely a much better actor.

The holiday season is immeasurably more sad for hundreds of people this year because of this untimely loss, but each and every one of those same people is also celebrating the life of this extraordinary man, and counting their blessings for having known him.

I'm sorry for posting this here, but I had to let people know that we have all lost a great man, even those who never met him.

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