educational

Virtual Matchmaking: Part 1

The primal urges of mating and dating drive Internet profits more than ever before in cyber history, and computerized matchmaking comprises an e-commerce sector that currently is generating substantial revenues.

Recent research from Market Data Enterprises found that the matchmaking industry was worth an estimated $917 million in 2004, growing nearly 25 percent from 2003 and 9.3 percent every year thereafter to an eventual $1.45 billion industry, if traditional and mobile dating services are also factored in.

Virtual matchmaking has frequently been referred to as the Internet's next killer app, and according to Jupiter Research, more than 18 million people visited online personal websites in June 2002, a significant jump from 14.8 million the prior year. Jupiter analysts also estimate that about two out of every five U.S. singles online have visited a personals site, with nearly one in four having posted a profile.

Market leader Match.com has 600,000 customers paying $25 a month, and uDate.com, which also operates Kiss.com, had $1.5 million in revenue in June 2001. In May 2001 alone, the company made $4 million and had four straight profitable quarters.

By incorporating the highly profitable aspects of online matchmaking, many adult companies are quickly catching on to the benefits of combining the first and second biggest sectors of monetized Internet content. Customer retention for adult matchmaking sites is reportedly much longer because members tend to be people who aren't looking for a long-term relationship, just something on the side, and since most of the content is supplied by users, webmasters don't have to pay for camera crews or talent.

Andrew Conru is CEO and founder of FriendFinder.com, which started in 1996 when he studied computer science at Stanford University. With more than 25 million active members and 75,000 newcomers registering daily, Conru said the FriendFinder network is among the top five online dating sites.

Seeing a growing demand for more adult content, branching out into the adult sphere in late 1996 was a natural progression for the FriendFinder network. Conru eventually introduced an adult component, AdultFriendFinder.com, a more sexually oriented and explicit dating option and counterpart to the tamer FriendFinder.com, which over time evolved as a niche market for people with alternative lifestyles such as cross dressing, candle wax, chastity belts, fisting and various other fetishes.

And just as AdultFriendFinder grew out of a market-driven response to FriendFinder content, Alt.com also evolved as a niche market for alternative lifestyles, such as BDSM.

"Some people using FriendFinder.com were a little risque in what they uploaded," Conru said. "I could either delete or hide them, or spin out a completely new site for adult-oriented people. If the market was looking for this type of activity, we wanted to create a service that provided exactly that. We didn't want to censor our members. On the adult side, there are fewer restrictions when it comes to what content you can upload."

According to Conru, the signup process is streamlined. People register on a questionnaire of around 15 to 25 questions and then members can search the whole database based on compatibility, which is mapped into 60 personality traits if users use a larger questionnaire form.

In Part 2 we'll examine issues of compatibility, privacy, and safety...

Copyright © 2026 Adnet Media. All Rights Reserved. XBIZ is a trademark of Adnet Media.
Reproduction in whole or in part in any form or medium without express written permission is prohibited.

More Articles

opinion

Inside the OCC's Debanking Review and Its Impact on the Adult Industry

For years, adult performers, creators, producers and adjacent businesses have routinely had their access to basic financial services curtailed — not because they are inherently higher-risk customers, but because a whole category of lawful work has long been treated as unacceptable.

Corey Silverstein ·
opinion

How to Build Operational Resilience Into Your Payment Ecosystem

Over the past year, we’ve watched adult merchants weather a variety of disruptions and speedbumps. Some even lost entire revenue streams overnight — simply because they relied too heavily on a single cloud provider that suffered an outage, lacked sufficient redundancy and failover, or otherwise fell short when it came to making sure their business was protected in case of unwelcome surprises.

Cathy Beardsley ·
opinion

Building a Stronger Strategy Against Card-Testing Bots

It’s a scenario every high-risk merchant dreads. You wake up one morning, check your dashboard and see a massive spike in transaction volume. For a fleeting moment, you’re excited at the premise that something went viral — but then reality sets in. You find thousands of transactions, all for $0.50 and all declined.

Jonathan Corona ·
opinion

A Creator's Guide to Starting the Year With Strong Financial Habits

Every January brings that familiar rush of new ideas and big goals. Creators feel ready to overhaul their content, commit to new posting schedules and jump on fresh opportunities.

Megan Stokes ·
opinion

Pornnhub's Jade Talks Trust and Community

If you’ve ever interacted with Jade at Pornhub, you already know one thing to be true: Whether you’re coordinating an event, confirming deliverables or simply trying to get an answer quickly, things move more smoothly when she’s involved. Emails get answered. Details are confirmed. Deadlines don’t drift. And through it all, her tone remains warm, friendly and grounded.

Women In Adult ·
opinion

Outlook 2026: Industry Execs Weigh In on Strategy, Monetization and Risk

The adult industry enters 2026 at a moment of concentrated change. Over the past year, the sector’s evolution has accelerated. Creators have become full-scale businesses, managing branding, compliance, distribution and community under intensifying competition. Studios and platforms are refining production and business models in response to pressures ranging from regulatory mandates to shifting consumer preferences.

Jackie Backman ·
opinion

How Platforms Can Tap AI to Moderate Content at Scale

Every day, billions of posts, images and videos are uploaded to platforms like Facebook, Instagram, TikTok and X. As social media has grown, so has the amount of content that must be reviewed — including hate speech, misinformation, deepfakes, violent material and coordinated manipulation campaigns.

Christoph Hermes ·
opinion

What DSA and GDPR Enforcement Means for Adult Platforms

Adult platforms have never been more visible to regulators than they are right now. For years, the industry operated in a gray zone: enormous traffic, massive data volume and minimal oversight. Those days are over.

Corey D. Silverstein ·
opinion

Making the Case for Network Tokens in Recurring Billing

A declined transaction isn’t just a technical error; it’s lost revenue you fought hard to earn. But here’s some good news for adult merchants: The same technology that helps the world’s largest subscription services smoothly process millions of monthly subscriptions is now available to you as well.

Jonathan Corona ·
opinion

Navigating Age Verification Laws Without Disrupting Revenue

With age verification laws now firmly in place across multiple markets, merchants are asking practical questions: How is this affecting traffic? What happens during onboarding? Which approaches are proving workable in real payment flows?

Cathy Beardsley ·
Show More